What Lawyers Don't Want You To Know About Divorce

Author: Ed Sherman
The worst thing you can do is go to a lawyer without first becoming informed and prepared. It is not difficult to learn what you need to know, but very dangerous not to. Here's why:

1. In a divorce, the law is concerned with only three things—property, support, and parenting arrangements for minor children. That's it; that's all. If there is no legal opposition (papers filed in court) to your requests on these three subjects, getting a divorce is simply a matter of red-tape and paperwork, easy to do. The trouble comes when parties can't agree about these issues and do things that do more harm than good - like taking the divorce into a lawyer's office and into court while the disagreements are still unresolved.

2. Very few divorces hinge on valid legal issues. Over many decades, after millions of California divorces, almost every conceivable issue has already been decided in great detail and can be looked up in our enormous body of cases and statutes. This means there is only rarely a fact situation where we don't know ahead of time pretty much what any judge would order, so there's really no good legal reason for people to disagree, at least none worth the financial and emotional cost. The reason people argue is not about the law but about emotional things like hurt, fear and anger. Even more, it is because arguing is the fundamental nature of law practice and the legal system.

3. There are no solutions for divorce problems in a law office or court room. Divorce problems are almost entirely personal and emotional, but the law has no tools that can help. None. Not any. As to lawyers, nothing in law school prepares them to help people resolve disagreements based on emotional upset.

4. Retaining a lawyer almost always makes things worse rather than better. Worse than merely having no solutions for your divorce problems, our legal system - known as the adversarial system of justice - is based on conflict. It originated with trial by combat in the Middle Ages when people with a disagreement would battle before a representative of the King and the person who survived was right. A hair more civilized today, parties do legal battle in a courtroom before a judge and try to win a decision. When you take a divorce into the legal system to "settle" disagreements, things invariably get worse (no solutions there, remember?) and the level of conflict and cost go way up. Even when it's over, the parties come away broke, unhappy, disinclined to comply with orders that have been imposed, and less able to get on with rebuilding their lives or raise children cooperatively.

5. The things you can do yourself are far superior to anything a lawyer can do for you. The lawyer has no legal tools or training that can help you settle disagreements and get on with your life. But because the problems are entirely personal, between you and your spouse, there are many very specific things you can do to help reduce tension, avoid conflict, and negotiate or mediate a fair settlement. In the book, How to Solve Divorce Problems, you'll find ten specific steps to take before you start to negotiate, actions that help protect yourself, the children and the other party. These are followed by ten steps to take that will make your negotiations smoother and more effective.



About The Author

Ed Sherman is a divorce specialist attorney and award-winning author of How to Do Your Own Divorce in California. His books and software have saved millions of people billions of dollars in unnecessary attorney fees. Visit http://www.nolotech.com/

Ask And It Is Given - Does The Law Of Attraction Really Work?

Author: Lucretia Torva
By now the movie “The Secret” has been out for over a year. It's even been discussed on Oprah. Many people are ready to change their lives by using the Law of Attraction. OK, so now what? How come we can think of all the stuff we want and it doesn't show up? Where's my Genie!?!?

I believe the root cause of the appearance of failure is the difference between “Wishful thinking” and “Knowing”.

Have you ever wished you had a new car yet knew it would not appear? Sure...when there's only $56.33 in your bank account and the car you want costs over 40K, duh! You KNOW it won't materialize. That, my good friend, is wishful thinking.

Starting with a couple obvious examples, you KNOW the sky is blue and you KNOW that night will come at the end of the day. How about some other instances of knowing: have you ever known you were going to have a good time at a particular party, or that you were going to get what you wanted for Christmas, or that you were going to bump into a good friend you hadn't seen for awhile? You were using the Law of Attraction! You combined certainty with a good feeling. There must be both, just one won't bring your vision to life.

Now...do it again, deliberately and repeatedly. Consciously focus on your desired outcome and work up some really good feelings about it. Those heartfelt feelings give the Universe guidance about what you want. On the negative side, when you feel really bad about something, those feelings are intense enough to guide the Universe to give you more of whatever you feel about.

I have finally started having some success with the Law of Attraction. I guided my feelings by telling myself I am “falling in love” with my desires. The concept of “falling in love” allows you to feel deeply, those feelings that send a warm sensation through you like a sip of a fine liqueur will. It also keeps that desire in the top of your mind so you focus on it a lot and with great feeling.

Remember, combine the two aspects of Knowing and Feeling Good. As Donald Trump is quoted as saying: “As long as you're going to be thinking anyway, think big”. A variation could be: “As long as you're going to be thinking anyway, think about everything you really want!”


About The Author

By Lucretia Torva. I am a freelance artist painting murals, portraits and faux finishes in the Southwest. I have been focusing my creativity on creating the life I truly desire! Check out my site and get on my mailing list http://www.CashFlowAttract.com

The Law Of Attraction: Do You Have The Focus To Be The Best You Can Be?

Author: Lucretia Torva
To truly experience success in the physical aspect of life, we must generate it with our thoughts.

-The Fully Engaged Person of Tomorrow

We have harnessed much of the physical world. The age is now at hand to harness the energies of the mind put them at the service of humanity.

Are you fully equipped to take a valiant part in that work?

-The Cost of Mental Waste

The greatest of all eras is at hand! Are you increasing your fitness to appreciate it and take part in it, or are you merely passing your time away?

Notice for a week the incidents of your daily life--your methods of work, habits of thought, modes of recreation. You will most likely discover a waste in your present random methods of operation.

How much energy do you suppose you annually dump into the scrap-heap of wasted effort? What does this mean to you in dollars and cents? In conscious usefulness? In peace and happiness? In productivity?

Fear not...you have all the abilities necessary to change, grow and create a better version of your life. This is what the Law of Attraction is about.

-The Means to Notable Achievement

Individual mental efficiency and focus is an absolute prerequisite to any notable personal achievement or any great individual success. Your mental energies are the forces with which you wage your battles in this world. Are you prepared to direct and deploy these forces with masterful control and strategic skill? Are you prepared to use all your reserves of mental energy in the development of your personal and professional life?

A Mighty and Intelligent Power resides within you. Its marvelous resources are just now coming to be recognized.

Recent scientific research has revealed, beyond the world of the senses and beyond the domain of consciousness, a wide and, to some, hidden realm of human energies and resources. You may very well be unconscious of the powers of the mind whose marvelous breadth and depth and power have been revealed to the world by scientific experiment and spiritual exploration. You have at your command mental powers of which you have never before dreamed. It is well worth your time and effort to explore, learn and develop these talents in yourself.

TWO LAWS OF SUCCESS & ACHIEVEMENT

-“You” as a Business Corporation

As a productive being you are a kind of one-person business corporation made up of two departments, the mental and the physical.

Your mind is the executive office of this personal corporation, its directing "head." Your body is the corporation's "production facility.” Your Eyes and ears, sight and smell and touch, hands and feet--these are the implements, the equipment.

Acquiring mastery of the “head” of your corporation and the power available to you will help you meet the practical problems of your life in such a way that success will be swift and certain. Success starts with your mind and thoughts and the feelings that they create.

-Business and Activity

First of all you should accept and believe two well-settled and fundamental laws.

1. All human achievement comes about through bodily activity. In other words, we must all take action!

2. All bodily activity is caused, controlled and directed by the mind.

Give the first of these propositions but a moment's thought. You can conceive of no form of accomplishment which is not the result of some kind of physical activity. One would say that the master works of poetry, art, philosophy, religion, are products of human effort furthest removed from the material side of life, yet even these would have been lost in the minds conceiving them had they not found transmission and expression through some form of bodily activity. You will agree, therefore, that the first of these propositions is so self-evident as to not require formal proof.

The second proposition is not so easily accepted by some!

-The Enslaved Brain

Remember, when we say "mind," we are not thinking of the brain. The brain is but one of the organs of the body, and, by the terms of our proposition as stated, is as much the slave of the mind as is any other organ of the body. To say that the mind controls the body presupposes that mind and body are distinct entities, the one belonging to a spiritual world, the other to a world of matter.

That the mind is master of the body is a settled principle of science. But we realize that its acceptance may require you to lay aside some preconceived prejudices. You may know many people who believe that the mind is nothing more or less than brain activity.

-First Step Toward Self-Realization

To have any success with “Manifestation” and “The Law of Attraction” we have to accept the conclusion that our thoughts control our physical experience. It is the basis of success in creating everything we can possibly desire.


About The Author

By Lucretia Torva. I am a freelance artist painting murals, portraits and faux finishes in the Southwest. I have been focusing my creativity on creating the life I truly desire! Check out my site and get on my mailing list http://www.CashFlowAttract.com

Repower Equipment: Is your Lawn Mower Ready for Summer?

Author: Ben Anton
Summer is almost here. You can already smell fresh mowed grass of neighborhood laws and here the kids running through sprinklers. It is time for all of us to get geared up for the long mowing season ahead. With the price of fuel continuing to climb higher, an aging lawn mower engine that is declining in power or fuel efficiency may not be worth the time and energy to use this summer. Yet the cost of a new lawn mower or lawn tractor may not be in your budget this year. Plus, we hear every day about the importance of being green these days and tossing your old lawn mower into the trash heap is not in line with reducing waste and protecting the environment.

Repowering your lawn mower or lawn tractor using repower kits for equipment made by Toro, Cushman, or Jacobsen can be the best preparation you need for the upcoming long lawn or golf course mowing season. The kits made for Toro lawn mowers and Toro lawn tractors are perfect examples of how small engine repower kits work and benefit lawn equipment owners.

Repower kits designed for Toro lawn mowers and lawn tractors have several features and added bonuses. The features and bonuses of these repower kits make them a great deal when so much else seems to be rising in price. What can you expect with the purchase of a Toro lawn mower or lawn tractor engine repower kit? The same great benefits you do with all repower kits available.

• To spend much less money on dependable, Toro replacement parts and engines than you would spend purchasing them new

• A spanking new emissions-certified engine for a high green-rating for your Toro lawn mower or Toro Lawn tractor that is more important than today

• All the parts needed for installing the Toro repower kit

• Complete and understandable installation instructions for easy installing

• Advanced technology like, full pressure lubrication, hydraulic valve lifters, overhead valves, and fuel efficient powering

• Simple, routine maintenance of Toro repowered lawn mowers and lawn tractors. Who doesn’t like the sound of that? Less time maintaining, more time mowing

• 2 year manufacturers warranty on every repower kit

• The support of a worldwide network of authorized dealers and distributors, for support where and when you need it.

The costs of lawn mower small engine repair and lawn tractor engine repairs can add up quickly if you are not careful about where you get your parts for making those repairs. Make sure you purchase parts from a reputable dealer and that those parts are high quality and dependable. Ask if your dealer has some sort of technical support as well so that if you have a question about the kit install or how your engine is working, you can get the answers easily and quickly.

The time to prep your lawn mower or lawn tractor, whether it is a Toro, Cushman or Jacobsen model, for the long summer mowing season is now. Small engine and engine repairs to lawn mowers and lawn tractors can extend the life and use of the mowers for many more years to come. Whether you are keeping your personal landscaping immaculate or caring for the quality of your community golf course, it is important to ensure that an aging mower does not become an unreliable fuel waster.

Ben Anton, 2007


About The Author

Ben Anton invites you to read more about repowering small engines at http://www.repower.com

Does the Law of Attraction apply in Irritable Bowel Syndrome?

Author: Dr. Phil Hariram
Irritable Bowel Syndrome affects as much as 20% of people in USA and Europe. Symptoms of Irritable Bowel Syndrome are abdominal pains associated with altered bowel pattern and bloating. In addition there can be rectal symptoms such as irritation and urgency. There are also non-colonic symptoms.

Treatments of IBS fall into four categories. These are patient education, dietary modification, medication, and behaviour and psychological therapy. Experts now agree that behaviour and psychological therapies are more likely to be effective that the other three.

The law of Attraction suggests that you attract into your life whatever you think about. This generalisation in simple terms means that your thoughts determine your destiny. The Law of Attraction has built up an enormous momentum after “The Secrets”; a documentary film, was shown on Oprah. It has been used for some time for personal growth, achievement and financial gain.

The question is: Does the Law of Attraction work in Medicine? In 2004, a study of 196 young people and 314 elderly subjects associated with negative thoughts or rumination concluded that negative thoughts may be detrimental to health independently of effects. In Reikii, all processes of healing or personal and spiritual development is associated with removing negative Ki (Life Forces) from a person’s energy field, along with negative thoughts and feelings that have created it.

Negative thoughts, following job loss, relationship break ups and poor assessment, affect self-esteem. These people can feel worthless, insignificant, unsure and easily defeated. A person with high self-esteem has positive thoughts and their thoughts determine their level of success.

So, does the Law of Attraction apply to Irritable Bowel Syndrome? When a person is first diagnosed with IBS, what information is delivered? Here are a few. We do not know why you have IBS. There is no single treatment that works for everyone. We cannot find any abnormality in your gut. There is no cure. Stress plays an important role in IBS. You have to live with it. It is also an established fact that most IBS sufferers do not get adequate support from their health professionals.

All these facts are negative. Is it not likely that they can lead to negative thoughts in the minds of IBS patients and produce negative effects? Treatments that focus on the mind are now recommended by experts. Treatment such as psychotherapy and cognitive behaviour therapy (CBT) are producing excellent results. Moss-Morris at the University of Southampton, UK said, “Patients who have ongoing IBS symptoms might benefit from a simple, early intervention of CGT, a means of changing thought processes from negative to positive that has been shown to be helpful.” Dr .J. Lackner at the State University of New York reported that after four brief sessions of CBT and a self-study manual given to patients, there was improvement in 73% of his IBS patients.

When an IBS patient tries a new treatment, expectation may well create significant improvement. This benefit may not last long because of the negative underbelly (There is no cure.) in the subconscious mind. Soon the benefits may wear off.

There are cases of refractory Irritable Bowel Syndrome patients following a course of hypnotherapy living normal lives, eating foods that were previously triggers. In refractory IBS nothing works anymore. During hypnotherapy, negative messages about IBS are plucked from the subconscious mind and replaced by positive ones. This is the Law of Attraction working at its best. Ingrained negative thoughts created negative effects in refractory IBS. After hypnotherapy, positive thoughts produced positive effects.

If you believe in the Law of Attraction, how can you use it to change the course of your IBS? Focus on the positives. Make them your reality and eventually your thoughts and feelings. Here are some positives. My gut is normal. My IBS will not lead on to other illnesses. Stress is a trigger. I can control stress. I can balance my lifestyle to improve my IBS. I can lead a full life even though I have IBS.


About The Author

Dr. Phil Hariram is a retired General Practitioner. His book : Irritable Bowel Syndrome. You take control, shows how to control IBS by being positive. Visit his website http://www.healingibs.com and be enlightened.