Universal Law Series - Law Of Attraction

Author: Tony Davies
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This is the sixth of seven articles in our continuing series covering the core seven Universal Laws. The focus of this article is the sixth Law – the Law of Attraction.
Law of Attraction
Simply stated, the Law of Attraction says that we attract into our lives, that upon which we place our dominant thoughts. In other words, if we focus predominantly on abundance, solutions and positive outcomes then that is exactly what we will attract back into our lives. Nice!
There is a dangerous flip side to this law however - if we focus on lack, problems and negative outcomes, then that is exactly what we will attract.
You may have heard of Earl Nightingale. Known today as the father of modern day self-help, Earl, while working in the insurance business back in the mid 1950’s, cut a record called ‘The Strangest Secret’. The purpose of this record was to provide some training for his staff while he was traveling on business. Earl’s strangest secret was simply this:
“We become what we think about most of the time!”
This ‘secret’ aligns perfectly with the Law of Attraction and acts as a constant reminder that we must learn to control our thoughts. Truthfully, our own thoughts are the only things in life over which we have complete control. The challenge is to keep them in control and not let them run rampant with negativity.
For an example of the power of the Law of Attraction, you need look no further than your own life. Have you ever had one of those days, where everything seems to go wrong? From the cold shower to the burnt toast to the traffic ticket on the way to the office, to the grouchy boss, to the difficult customer, we have all experienced those days. It all starts with the way we think. Our thought patterns attract the first negative experience. This experience then puts us in a negative frame of mind which works to attract further “bad” situations. The more we focus on the “bad day” we are having, the worse things get!
The solution is to change our frame of reference. Take the negative emotions and change them to be either positive or at least neutral. Look for the lesson in every situation. Learning to laugh at ourselves is another great way to change our reference point. If we break the cycle of negativity, things will begin to turn around almost immediately.
What You Can Do
There are two things that you can start doing immediately that will help you to harness the awesome power of the Law of Attraction:
1. Ask yourself the question: “Do I focus on Lack or Abundance (or stated another way, ‘Am I problem-focused or solution-focused”)? If you answered, ‘Lack / Problems’ then set out to immediately change your frame of reference. Change your habits and thought patterns to be more positive and solution-focused.
2. Take full responsibility for whatever is happening in your life, be it good or bad. You have attracted the good as well as the bad, so taking responsibility will allow you to make the choice to change your thinking.
Positive thinking on it’s own will not solve all of your problems, however it is one of a series of things that we all have the power to implement which will get us on the path to leading the life we want.About the AuthorTony Davies is a Business Consultant as well as an Executive, Business & Personal Coach. He is an expert in the areas of Leadership and Personal Development and in integrating these two, seemingly different, disciplines. To find out how Tony can help move your business or life forward, please visit his website at http://www.momentumbusiness.ca.
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Universal Law Series - The Law Of Expectation

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Law of Expectations
Simply stated, the Law of Expectations tells us that whatever one expects, with confidence, becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. When one expects with confidence that good things will happen, they usually will. If, on the other hand, one expects a negative outcome to a situation, then the outcome will usually be negative.
Our expectations play a key role in our own outcomes and they also have a remarkable effect on the people around us. What we expect from those around us determines our attitude toward them more than any other factor. In turn, the people around us tend to reflect our attitudes right back at us - whether the expectations and attitudes are positive or negative, good or bad.
Dr. Robert Rosenthal of the University of California – Riverside, has spent more than 40 years studying the idea that one’s expectations for the behavior of another, can become a self-fulfilling prophecy. His years of experimentation show this to be true. In his landmark book, “Pygmalion in the Classroom”, Rosenthal tells of case after case where teachers were told that a student, or sometimes a whole class, was extremely bright and was predicted to make a quantum leap in academic performance in the coming year. Even though the students were randomly chosen from the school population at large, provided the teacher believed that the student or students were exceptional and expected them to excel, the students performed at much higher levels than other students in the same or similar classes, and vastly better than could have been predicted by previous grades or behavior.
The Arbinger Institute (http://www.arbinger.com) has published a terrific book called “Leadership and Self Deception – Getting out of the Box”. While the book focuses on developing superior leadership skills through being true to one’s self, they talk a lot about the way we view others and the way we expect others to act – based on our own internal prejudices. They refer to this as “being inside the box in how we view others.” It is not until we choose to view others as they really are (i.e. human beings with valuable experiences, viewpoints and inputs) that we will be able to connect at a deeper level and achieve higher degrees of understanding and communication. In other words, it is not until our expectations of others change that we can change our own experiences with them.
Take a moment to think about your own expectations – of yourself and those around you. Your expectations exert a powerful influence on people and events, for good or for bad, so be extremely careful!
What You Can Do
There are a few things that you can start doing immediately that will help you to harness the awesome power of the Law of Expectations:
1. Always expect the best! Assume the very best of intentions on the part of those around you. There is no better place to start than home. Tell your spouse and children on a regular basis that you believe in them, that you think they are wonderful, that you love them and that you are proud of them.
2. Practice these same behaviors with your staff and coworkers. The very best managers, entrepreneurs, and salespeople are "high expectations" people.
3. Expect the best of yourself. Focus on your unlimited potential and imagine that you can accomplish anything that you put your mind to. Imagine that your greatest moments lie ahead and that everything that has happened to you up to now has merely been a preparation for the great things that are yet to come.
There is no mystery to achieving success - it is available to all of us. One need only be aware of, understand and, most importantly, live in accordance with Universal Law! Through expecting the best of yourself and others, you can attain the levels of success that you truly want!About the AuthorTony Davies is a Business Consultant as well as an Executive, Business & Personal Coach. He is an expert in the areas of Leadership and Personal Development and in integrating these two, seemingly different, disciplines. To find out how Tony can help you to move your business and your life forward, contact him through http://www.momentumbusiness.ca.
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Universal Law Series - The Law Of Belief

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Law of Belief
The Law of Belief states that whatever you believe with feeling and conviction becomes your reality. It is not until you change your beliefs that you can begin to change your reality and your performance.
Another way to state this law is in the context of having faith. All of the religions of the world talk about one’s ability to always keep faith, as being a key to happiness and success. Whether you choose to follow religious dogma or not, the Law of Belief is something which can either help you achieve success or keep you from achieving it – depending upon whether you live in accordance with the law.
You have heard the doubters and the naysayers out there who always proclaim, “I’ll believe it when I see it!” In reality, it is the other way around; it is not until you believe it, that you will see it (no matter what “it” is)!
Self-limiting beliefs are perhaps the most detrimental of all thoughts, since they absolutely will keep you from the success that you may want, but don’t believe you can attain. There is an old saying that states,”whether you think you can or you can’t, your right!” This saying is completely congruent with the Law of Belief. Let me explain through the use of the following hypothetical situation:
You are up for a promotion at work. You have worked hard and feel you are ready, but do not believe with conviction that you will get the promotion. Perhaps you feel there are other candidates that are better or more qualified, or that you are indispensable in your current role (now there is a misguided belief!) or it may be some other negative thought pattern. If these are the beliefs that you are holding in your mind, it is almost guaranteed that you will not get the promotion. Why? Because your self-limiting beliefs will conspire to hold you back!
The Law of Belief, when understood and practiced, can help anyone to manifest those things in life that they truly want. The trick is that you need absolute clarity on your objectives; a solid plan to get you there and then must believe that you are destined to achieve them. As time passes, you must continuously reinforce this belief in your own mind.
One of the greatest challenges is to persevere and maintain focus on your goals, even when faced with seemingly insurmountable setbacks or obstacles. The interesting thing in these circumstances is that we tend to observe the world from a very narrow point of view - which is that obstacle are negative. In fact, obstacles help us to grow and can be positive! Sometimes things go awry and it isn’t until much later that we discover that, whatever the setback was, it was there for good reason. We learn and become stronger from the experience.
By maintaining faith, by continuing to live in accordance with the Law of Belief, we are able to achieve our goals, although the path may be somewhat different than we had originally thought! If however, we give up at the first sign of trouble, in other words, our faith or belief fail us, then we can never hope to reach our goals.
If you can learn to persevere in the face of all obstacles, then eventually you will create the reality that you desire.
What You Can Do
There are two action exercises, which you can put in place immediately, to help you in this area:
1. Begin to believe today, that you are destined to be successful in whatever areas you desire. Get very clear and focused on your true desires, make plans to achieve them and then believe, with absolute conviction, that you will achieve them. The universe will conspire to help you achieve it – once you believe it!
2. Get into the habit of acting as though you have already accomplished your goals and are the success you want to be. Your new behaviours will influence your beliefs, which in turn will help you to manifest your desires!
There is no mystery to achieving success - it is available to all of us. One need only be aware of, understand and, most importantly, live in accordance with, Universal Law! The first step is in beginning to believe that you will attain the levels of success that you truly want!About the AuthorTony Davies is a Business Consultant as well as a Business and Personal Coach. He is an expert in the areas of Leadership and Personal Development and in integrating these two, seemingly different, disciplines. To find out how Tony can help you or your business, please visit his website at http://www.momentumbusiness.ca and call him directly.
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Universal Law Series - The Law Of Cause & Effect

Author: Tony Davies
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Law of Cause & Effect:
The Law of Cause & Effect states that absolutely everything happens for a reason. All actions have consequences and produce specific results, as do all inactions. The choices we make are causes, whether they are conscious or unconscious, and will produce corresponding outcomes or effects. The Law works the same for everyone at all times.
Distilled down to the simplest possible terms, this Law states that for every outcome or effect in one’s life, there is a specific cause; poor diet and exercise habits result in poor health, constant and uncontrolled spending results in debt and money worries, not putting effort into your key relationships results in poor relationships and all of the associated issues.
The law can also be applied in the physical sense through examination of Sir Isaac Newton’s third Law of Motion, which states that “for every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.” If, for example, you were to hold your hand over a candle’s flame (the cause) the effect would be that your hand would burn and it would hurt! While this is an extreme example, it serves to illustrate the point very well.
Consider another situation which is specific to business. Imagine that your business is so successful you cannot keep up with the demand – a nice problem to have! Eventually, the levels of customer service deteriorate as your staff attempts to cope with the problem. You receive complaints and employee morale begins to suffer.
At this point, you have a choice to make – try to muddle through with the existing situation or hire more people. This is a difficult decision as there are many unknowns when hiring – will you get the right person, will he / she be part of the solution or part of the problem, what will happen to your cash flow etc.
Whichever decision you make becomes the cause – either you hire or don’t. The effect is the result of the decision. If you hired someone, there should be some relief for your existing staff, and customers should become happier with your service (providing of course, you hired the right person and then invested to train them properly). If the decision was to not hire, the effect would likely be dissatisfied, and eventually, lost customers and potentially lost employees as well – unless you can find another solution (cause) to implement (process re-engineering etc.). This is a recipe for disaster which could easily see the business fail altogether – the ultimate effect.
The same holds true with your personal relationships. If you treat the important people in your life with respect, love, compassion, dignity and honesty (cause), you will experience loving, solid relationships – which lead to happiness, fulfillment and peace of mind (effect).
Making It Work For You:
The truly wonderful thing about this law is that by definition then, we should be able to manifest that which we truly want (the effect) simply by exerting the same causes that others before us have exerted and been successful. Let me explain:
If you have a desire to be a successful and highly paid businessperson in your chosen field, then you should be able to look back and study what made others, before you, successful. What books did they read, courses did they study, beliefs did they hold, actions did they take?
If you were to emulate the things they did to be successful, you would achieve the same results over a period of time. If, over time, this does not occur, it is likely because there is something different in what you were doing – some vital piece of information that is missing.
What You Can Do:
There are three action exercises, which you can put in place immediately, to help you get more of what you want:
1. Determine the Cause & Effect relationships in the areas in which you want improvement or success. Identify the specific things you will need to do in order to get the results that you desire.
2. Take action! Make the decision to focus on, and do, the things that other successful people have done in those areas. Half the battle is taking action. It is your ability to actually begin that will set you apart from the majority of the population.
3. Persevere. If you take action and do the things that others have done, you will eventually get the desired results. Rome was not built in a day and it has taken you a lifetime to get into the position in which you now find yourself. Success takes time, so if it doesn’t seem to be working immediately, don’t give up! Stay focused, analyze your causes to ensure you are doing the right things; tweak your approach if necessary – you will get the desired results!
There is no mystery to achieving success - it is available to all of us. One need only be aware of, understand and live in accordance with Universal Law!About the AuthorTony Davies is a Business Consultant and Business & Personal Coach. He is an expert in the areas of Leadership and Personal Devleopment, with more than 25 years experience. To find out how Tony can help move your business and your life forward, please visit his website at http://www.momentumbusiness.ca
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Understanding The Law...Defacto,Divorce And Family Law

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Q. I recently divorced my husband who has left me with the four children and he has suggested that as we have no assets he will give me half of his superannuation. What should I do as I am unemployed and on a single mother’s supporting pension and he does not pay child support?
A. Unfortunately you are being very badly treated as your entitlements would include spousal maintenance, child support (see the child support agency) and access to at least 50% of his superannuation. You need to seek urgent legal assistance and perhaps legal aid is where you should look first.
Q. I have been divorced from my former husband for over seven years and although I am in employment he has been on the dole throughout and has a history of violence. Recently he approached me and suggested that as he was now in a stable relationship he would like to have contact with our son. What should I do?
A. In all cases involving children it always gets back to what is in the best interests of the child. Should your ex-husband have a history of violence involving both yourself and the child, custody would not be an issue and supervised contact is probably what would be allowed. This always gets back to working out a program which will be acceptable to both parties provided that the child will not suffer as a result.
Q. I am currently involved in a de-facto relationship and my partner has excluded me from the home by locking me out. What can I do as she has become personally violent towards me and we need to sell the house so we can go our separate ways?
A. In regard to the property you should ask your solicitor to write to your ex-partner indicating that you wish to have the property sold and if they do not comply then you can always approach the Equity Division of the Supreme Court for relief.
Q. Do you think it advisable for me to enter into a financial agreement with my intended defacto partner as I have all the assets and she has very little?
A. Yes. There are a number of reasons for doing this but principally you need to ensure you are fully protected given your age and if the relationship breaks down then you have a level of protection which would not otherwise be available to you.
Q. I have been involved in a same-sex relationship with another person for over 20 years and I have retained a firm of solicitors who seem reluctant to push my case as strongly as I would like. The other side is making mincemeat out of my representative who does not seem to know what to do to counter their attacks. What do I do in the circumstances?
A. If you are unhappy with the type of representation you are receiving and the service is falling well short of your expectations then you need to consider whether or not it is in your best interests to move to another lawyer. Same-sex defacto relationships and marriages which fail all require representatives who possess skills appropriate to best represent their client’s interests. If counselling, mediation and conciliation has not worked for you such that you find you are under constant attack and need to take a more forceful approach then perhaps it is time for you to consider changing lawyers to one who can better represent your interests as a 5-10% swing in entitlements from one party to another may mean that legal fees become irrelevant in this context as you will need to fully protect your interests in these circumstances.
Q. I have just broken up with my defacto partner and everything was in her name, although I did a lot of building work to improve the property and paid the mortgage instalments whilst we were together. Am I entitled to be recompensed for my contribution to the relationship?
A. Yes. Effectively where two people are in a defacto relationship and one makes all the financial contributions to it whilst the other takes the benefits even though they may own the principal asset the court will look to the nature and extent of the financial contributions you have made and the assets will split based on this after accounts have been taken.
Q. My boyfriend has a couple of children to an ex-girlfriend who has packed up, moved on and not told anyone where she has gone. Is there anything my boyfriend can do?
A. Yes. He can approach the court for orders which means that anybody who has any knowledge of those children’s whereabouts has to deliver up information so that their current location can be discovered so the court can make orders for their return.
Q. I am a grandmother - do I have any rights to see my grandchildren?
A. Yes. You fit within a particular class of important individuals which the court considers important to the development of your children and therefore you would be entitled to see them after you have approached the court for orders.
Q. What effect with the new changes in the family law system have on children?
A. All children will have a right to know both their parents and to be protected from harm.
Q. What impact will the new changes have on parents?
A. Parenting is regarded as a responsibility which should be shared equally. This may not mean equal time; it could mean substantial or significant time spent by both parents with the child.
Q. Is it true that these new family law changes mainly focus on children?
A. Yes. These changes in the law are all about putting the needs and best interests of children first.
Q. What are the responsibilities of parents in this regard?
A. Parents bear the responsibility for their children’s physical and emotional wellbeing which should be share equally between parents provided they are not subjected to abuse or violence. Co-operation between separating or separated parents is an essential part of these reforms.
Q. Do these reforms mean that children will spent equal amounts of time with each parent?
A. No. The focus is both parents will have an equal role in making decisions about important issues such as schooling and health care.
Q. How do parenting plans and parenting orders sit with each other?
A. Basically it means that both the parents and the court need to have the best interests of the child in mind at all times when making decisions affecting the child’s wellbeing.
Q. How will the courts determine how much time the child spends with each parent?
A. Courts will determine this by reference to what is in the best interests of the child and other practical considerations. Time can mean equal time or substantial or significant time with both parents which may include day to day routine time not just weekends and holidays.
Q. When will these changes which focus on cooperatively resolving disputes come into operation?
A. It is expected they will start on 1st July 2007 when parents will be required to attend family disputes resolution sessions and be expected to make a genuine effort to resolve issues and disputes before taking a parenting matter to court.
Q. How does the court system accommodate these changes?
A. In parenting cases there will be change to a case-management approach with the focus being on the early detection and dealing with of violence and abuse.
Q. What will happen where there has been a breach of parenting orders?
A. The court will have wider powers to deal with people who breach parenting orders.
Q. What will happen where parents fail to fulfil their responsibilities?
A. Where parents fail to fulfil their major parenting responsibilities the courts will be able to take these matters into account.
Q. At what stage will this disputes resolution mechanism come into play?
A. Separating parents will be required to undertake some form of disputes resolution for parenting disagreements before proceeding to court. Parents will have access to the new family relationship centres or may attend another accredited service or practitioner in this regard.
Q. Will it be compulsory for separating couples to attend a family relationship centre?
A. No, but the law will require separating parents to attempt disputes resolution before taking a parenting dispute to court.
Q. What does the court bear in mind when considering what is in the best interests of the child?
A. That the children know both their parents and to be protected from harm each being given equal weight.
Q. Are there any other considerations which are taken into account?
A. Yes. Additional consideration is given to views expressed by the child, the nature of the child’s relationship with his/her parents and other important persons such as grandparents, relatives and extended family members as well as the practical difficulties of a child having contact with a parent(s).
Q. Are children entitled to independent legal advice where a matter proceeds to court?
A. Yes. The court may order an independent lawyer be engaged to represent the best interests of the child and to inform the court of their independent view in this connection.
Q. What is a parenting plan?
A. A parenting plan is an agreement worked out between a child’s separating parents which can take any form provided it sets out the parenting arrangements for children. It must be produced in writing and dated and signed by both parents.
Q. Can a parenting plan be changed at any time?
A. Yes, as it is voluntary it needs to have the agreement of both parents. It should be borne in mind that parenting plans are not legally enforceable.
Q. Will the court have any regard to parenting plans if they are not legally enforceable?
A. When the court is making a parenting order in relation to a child they are required to consider the terms of the most recent parenting plan and to consider the extent to which both parents have complied with their obligations in relation to the child.
Q. Where a court has made a parenting order with respect to parenting arrangements can the parents change it without having to go back to court?
A. Yes provided the court order does not prohibit this.
Q. Although it is expected that family disputes resolution to new parenting cases will apply from mid-2007 when will it apply to all parenting cases?
A. The final date is expected to be mid-2008 but it will not apply in cases of family violence or child abuse.
Q. Will family disputes resolution apply in all cases?
A. No. It will only apply to parents who want to go to court over a parenting issue where it is compulsory unless they fit within the listed exceptions or where they have already agreed on parenting arrangements.
Q. How does the court know that compulsory family disputes resolution has already taken place?
A. This is because a certificate is required from an accredited family disputes resolution practitioner before the court can hear an application for a parenting order. Basically the certificate states that family disputes resolution did not work for a number of reasons.
Q. How will family violence and child abuse be dealt with under the current changes?
A. Family violence and child abuse will not be tolerated. This is the fundamental principle of the new reforms. Family violence includes actions or threats by a person against any family member or their property including witnessing such actions or threats. Fear and the apprehension of violence are addressed. A person must reasonably fear for or be apprehensive about their personal wellbeing or safety. The courts are required to act promptly in cases of violence or abuse. State and territory agencies are expected to investigate allegations of violence and abuse without delay.
Q. My de-facto partner and I recently separated and it is proposed that we split the assets 50:50. What should I do?
A. If there are no children then it is purely and simply a question of splitting the assets but it should be remembered that de-facto couples are not treated as generously as married couples. It really gets down to taking accounts and the extent of financial contribution made by each partner.About the AuthorNominate a Lawyer is a network of carefully selected, highly qualified family lawyers in Sydney, Melbourne and Brisbane.
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